Twelve Ways You Are Being a C^%T.

by Cookie

My family keeps asking me what I want for Christmas this year.

Without sounding so annoyingly like my dad when I was a kid: ”I just want everyone to get along”, I finally, really, really get where that comes from. Assuming that no one I know can actually get me Jason Momoa and also convince my husband to be brother-husbands with him, or maybe a hot tub in the middle of a wiener dog ranch, there’s really only one other thing that I might ask Santa for:

I wish that people would just stop being cunts.

Yes. You absolutely read that right. I want you to stop being a cunt. And if the word cunt offends you, take your cursor, collapse the screen, and take a hike. I don’t need a language officer and I don’t really give a fuck what you think about my choice of words.

So, what does not being a cunt mean to you?

How do you know if you are being a cunt?

If you are reading something on the internet, and the entire content/validity/message of the discussion at hand is getting lost because you have seen a naughty word, and you furiously start grabbing at your neck in search of your pearls, you are being a cunt.
If you are complaining that you are not allowed to do A,B, or all the way to Z when the rule is in place to protect the safety and well being of those around you, you are being a cunt.
If you are breaking a rule set forth by the governing body, whether it makes sense to you or not, in the name of your rights, while disregarding the rights of others, you are being a cunt.
If you are a public figure and are incapable of having a reasonable discussion with someone who is asking questions whether they are your supporters, your critics or the press, you are being a cunt.
If you are denying science and peer reviewed research by people who have literally devoted their entire educational and professional lives to a subject matter in favour of someone who made a YOUTUBE video and are subsequently spreading misinformation around while selling tin foil hats, you are being a cunt.
If you are saying that your opinion bears equal weight while denying the basic human rights of others based on race, colour, gender, sexual orientation, you are being a cunt.
If you being a sentence with ”I’m not a racist but…..” you are being a cunt.
If you are a man, speaking to a woman, and you begin a sentence with ”Well, actually….” you are being a cunt.
If you think that people suffering from cyclical trauma, abuse, or poverty should just pull up their bootstraps and fix themselves with out any resources, you are being a cunt.
If you intentionally cause harm to any vulnerable group, including animals, you are being a cunt.
If you believe that vulnerable people- elderly, impoverished, children, or disabled folks are a viable sacrifice and they somehow have less value than yourself, or exist only as a burden to you or society, you are being a cunt.
If you think that humans are a resource that should be exploited to benefit yourself or anyone else, you are being a cunt.

If you have read through this list and have checked yes to one or more of the suggestions, take a deep breath, get over the word ”cunt” and just stop doing it.

It really boils down to developing empathy, and genuinely caring about the person near to you. It has nothing to do with being ”appropriate”. It has everything to do with valuing the person next to you as you want to be valued in this world.

So if I had a Christmas wish, it would be for people to take themselves off the above list, and love each one another in meaningful ways. Like consideration, understanding and selflessness.

Make it happen.