The other day I was out for a drink with some old friends and the conversation inevitably turned towards our children. As we shared and laughed and vented, we started talking about nakedness.
When does it stop being appropriate to be naked in front of or with your children? When does it stop being appropriate to let my little nudists streak around the house doing somersaults and handstands with their vaginas in the air or wieners in their hand?
Cause that happens at all of your homes too, right?
My kids love to be naked. They only put clothes on after many many repetitions and threats. The phrase “put your vagina away” comes out of my mouth at least once per day.
I guess I just worry that the lack of modesty is going to turn into either some sort of weird naked thing at school next year and make my daughter the social pariah amongst her classmates. And I also worry that some fucking sicko is gonna hurt my kid.
I know. I know. I need to calm down about this “putting my child’s life into the hands of strangers” thing at school in the fall. But seriously. What if she has trouble pulling up her pants after using the bathroom and there is no one to help her so she just decides to say fuck it and run around naked instead?
We are a naked family. We don’t close doors, everybody knows about everybody elses junk. I don’t want my kids to feel self conscious about themselves. I don’t want them to think negatively or weird about their bodies. I want them to love them, and understand that what they see in the media in terms of body image isn’t really the truth. I want them to know what “real” peoples bodies look like and that it is okay to love themselves if they are squishy or hairy or imperfect in any way.
But I also want them to put their goods away when we have people over for dinner.
As it happens, a dear friend of mine sent me this article too:
Basically, a father had his baby in the shower with him when the child was burning with fever, trying to calm him down and help bring the fever down. Mom thought it was a beautiful moment and captured a few photos which she then posted to Facebook.And people freaked out, because they were both naked.
Ummm. They are in the shower. A parent. THEIR CHILD.
Shit. My kids are four and two and they LOVE it when I come in the bathtub with them. It’s fun, there’s no fighting about having a bath. It’s moments that can’t and won’t last forever.
Do we live in such a totally hyper-sexualized community that all nudity represents is someone about to get laid? Is that why people in North America get so crazy about women breastfeeding in public? Is THAT why girls can’t wear yoga pants or spaghetti straps to school because any amount of skin shown automatically means something sexual or inappropriate is going on?
Get a fucking grip people.
Our bodies are used for sex, yes. But they are also used for eating tacos and riding bikes and comforting our children when they are sick. So, my question still is, when should the family nudity start being weird? When did you start covering up in front of your kids? I’m pretty sure a 16 year old girl doesn’t need to see her dad grunting one out on the john, but what about a 6 year old? When did your kids start asking for privacy?
Adulting is hard. Parenting is worse.